Monthly Archives: September 2022

great game, great game

Yesterday, B scored two goals at her soccer game!  I was ecstatic.  Overall, I’d say she’s a very average player in the league who had a very good day.  Remember that B didn’t walk until 17 months and had therapy for gross motor delays.  Everyone says, “they all develop at their own pace and she’ll catch up,” which is actually nonsense.  Kids who are behind early may catch up in the sense that, yes, that will eventually learn to walk.  However, many or even most will be consistently behind their peers in terms of gross motor unless they receive continuing support in order to catch up and keep up.  (Of course, it depends on why the child was delayed.  L was a late walker because she considered walking dangerous and didn’t want to do it.  B was a late walker due to hypotonia and other issues.)

When we first took B to soccer a couple years ago, they had a program where a hundred or more kids would show up at a giant field and they’d divide them into groups and have a “practice.”  It wasn’t well set up to meet the needs of less talented kids and had a two year age range, which is huge at age 5 and 6.  B, with a late birthday, was one of the youngest kids there.  They also didn’t segregate by gender.  There were maybe two boys in B’s group of 10, and they dominated 90% of the play with one or two girls managing to participate and the rest mostly watching and running around without ever touching the ball.  B spent most of the session in tears because she couldn’t keep up when they ran, and she couldn’t keep up when they dribbled, and she didn’t know how to dribble anyway, and she couldn’t do the drills and so on.  I was pregnant and feeling like crap and it was kind of a nightmare, but it was apparent to Jonathan and I that she was far behind the other kids and that she wouldn’t “catch up” or keep up unless we put in some work.

Since then, during soccer season, we do our best to play soccer with her most days for half an hour or so.  We also sign her up for all the playing opportunities – the clinics, the winter indoor soccer, etc.  It’s been a fair amount of work, though also a lot of fun.  She enjoys it.  With that said, I wonder if other parents are doing this with their kids.  Maybe some are but I assume most aren’t.  With all this work, despite B’s amazing goals today, she’s barely average, maybe a little below average, compared to the other kids.  (She is, however, gaining a better field sense and learning how to be in the right place at the right time and to take the opportunity to shoot if it arises – hence, her goals.)

Perhaps we should just sign her up for chess or some other activity that doesn’t require coordination or strength.  Personally, however, I believe that great joy can be achieved through sport and physical activity, and I think a lot of unathletic kids are denied that joy because so many sports programs are set up to reward the most talented children.  I want B to have the opportunity to find joy in sport and team competition.  If she decides it’s not her thing when she’s older, that’s obviously fine.

L has made it pretty clear that she’s not interested in ball sports (too dangerous – you might get hit!), but I’m glad she seems to have found her niche in dance, gymnastics and swim.


Great song.  I’ve been listening to it nonstop for the last couple of days.  #1 in Australia and at or near the top of the charts in the English speaking world, except in the US and Canada of course.  Here we’ve got Harry Styles, whoever that is.  But I love this song.

Of course, I think the original Blue by Eiffel 65 is one of the best songs ever written.  Blue reached #1 in Australia, Austria, Belgium, Canada, Denmark, Europe (as a whole), Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Lithuania, Netherlands, NZ, Norway, Scotland, Sweden, Switzerland, and the UK.  It was at the top in Ireland for weeks and weeks.  It was an amazing thing when that song was played in an Irish nightclub.  But it never reached #1 in the US!  Why does the US have such poor music taste?

Covid in Seattle

There are so many examples of harm done by stupid pandemic policies, but just in case you need another, here it is.

The jail discontinued group activities, classes and in-person family visitation at the outset of the pandemic as a way to reduce COVID-19 transmission, but those policies have continued as the jail grapples with an understaffing crisis.

Families of people in jail custody have cited the jail’s shutdown of in-person visitation and programming like Narcotics Anonymous and group religious services as contributors to their loved ones’ deteriorating mental health.

What a surprise that the jail seized the opportunity discontinue services with Covid as an excuse, and more than two years later, they’re still stopped.  How horrible that they’ve stopped in-person family visitation!  Disgusting.

Between August 2021 and July 2022, four people died by suicide in the downtown jail or in the hospital following a jail stay, a rate more than four times the national pre-pandemic jail average, according to Seattle Times reporting.

These are small numbers, but for all the people who actually manage to kill themselves, imagine how many others must be in a state of despair.

But don’t worry . . . they’ve got a 2-year plan to restore visits.  Yes, a 2-year plan.  By 2024, people will be able to have visitors again.  Can you imagine?  I’m no bleeding heart and don’t spend a lot of time worrying about criminals, but this is ridiculous.  I think a lot of people and organizations have shown their true colors in their response to the pandemic.  And Biden is right, the pandemic is over and has been for a while.

Meanwhile, Seattle libraries had 130 closures this summer.  Yes, 130.  You really couldn’t make this stuff up.  Seattle librarians are STILL required to wear masks.  (Yes, those books are apparently still dangerous.  Remember the ones they were quarantining for 72 hours for a solid year?)  Libraries used to close at 85 degrees, which is rather unusual in Seattle.  Now they close at 80 degrees, which is far more common.  Why?  Because the masks make it unsafe to work in temperatures above 80.


We are going to France in the summer of ’23.  This has really been planned since L started school, back when I was still getting over the trauma of my panic attacks and wondering if I’d be able to live life to the full.  It’s been planned since before we knew that S would exist and that we’d be taking a preschooler along.  A pre-preschooler, actually, since S is still 2 and won’t be old enough for preschool until next year.  The school, no surprise to me, have canceled the normal 5th grade fieldtrip to France because of Covid (along with more mundane things, like the annual science fair).  But we are going anyway, by God!  It’s just as well.  Going with the school would have had its pros and cons, and while I am devastated that our friends moved to Paris, it will be kind of convenient for our trip.

We will probably go 6/17 though 7/2 or something like that.  There are two direct flights from Seattle to Paris, and if we take the cheaper one, we’d depart at 4:30 PM and arrive at 11:15 am local time, nearly 10 hours later.  Have I mentioned that I hate to fly?  Jonathan and I had been talking about going to see the French Alps.  However, Annecy, the most likely destination that we’d start with, is 5.5 hours by car.  (You can actually get there in as little as four hours by train, so maybe that is the way to go?  But how hard would it be to get from Charles de Gaulle to the train station?  And from the Annecy station to where we decided to stay?  Don’t forget, we’ll be traveling with a 3-year-old.

Alternatively, we could stay several days in Paris.  I am not really one for big cities, but of course it would be nice (and expensive) to see Versailles, the Notre Dame (if it’s open), and some of the other cathedrals and sights.  So perhaps we could take a hotel in downtown Paris, or stay in one of the nearby towns, for three nights or so and then go to Annecy.

Alternatively, for about the same amount of money and only two extra hours, we could fly into Geneva, which is only a 40 minute drive or 50 minute train ride from Annecy.  Or we could fly into Geneva and out of CDG.  Or vice versa.

The other interesting factor is that we’d like L to be able to spend time with her best friend.  Her best friend is out of school on 7/4 and then goes straight to Italy to stay with her grandparents.  L is invited to come and stay as long as she likes.  We could delay our vacation and let L go off to Italy.  Or we could take L with us and then leave her with her friend and either let her fly home along (direct, obvs, dropped off at the airport by her friend’s mom) or one of us could come back, spend a day or two in Italy and then fly back with her.   However, they stay midway between Nice and Genoa, nearly 10 hours drive from Paris.  So that would be quite the journey.

So much planning.  It feels intimidating, but I’ve come down with some annoying bug, and it’s passing the time as I convalesce.