A rape trial just concluded in Belfast with the accused being rugby players, more or less the brit equivalent of American football players. I found it interesting to read the account. Of course the young woman took actions that put her in the situation, and as always, it’s nearly impossible to prove rape. Personally, I don’t think men should be put away for rape unless the evidence is conclusive. Since the evidence is rarely conclusive, this suggests that most men who date rape can get away with it. The solution, in my mind, is to make the penalty so severe that no one wants to risk the unlikely chance they’ll get caught. I propose life in prison for attempted rape.
There was an event in Seattle recently in which a man attempted to assault and rape a runner. She fought him off, posted on insta, and became an internet celebrity. He recently went on trial and is going to prison for less than 5 years. Really??? Have we learned nothing from Brock? Just because he’s not a young, handsome, privileged rich kid it’s ok for him to rape women? There is a major differentiater between Brock and this rapist. I can with 100% confidence avoid a brock rape by not drinking to the point of unconsciousness. Perhaps because I run often, and run often in the dark, and always alone, I feel very angry that people don’t take this other type of rape equally seriously. I feel it’s actually much worse.
Anyway, in terms of the Belfast incident, there are so many young women that take actions that put themselves in terribly vulnerable positions. I always think about the many times I put myself in similar situations as a young woman – falling down drunk, sometimes with friends not around, strange men pawing at me. So incredibly stupid! I was lucky enough never to experience any kind of sexual assault. But it really could happen to anyone. One night, and only one, at GT, I drank until I passed out. It wasn’t my intention. I hadn’t drank all semester – literally at all – and I drank like I had the tolerance I’d had in Ireland when I drank all the time. And I passed out and nothing happened to me. The guy I was with took care of me. Thank goodness there was no brock around. Anyway, to me the formula for not getting date raped = no alcohol + no athletes. Virtually all date rapes include at least one of the two and a huge percentage include both. But everyone has to go through that phase where they throw caution to the winds, right? It’s just a question of being lucky enough to get through (relatively) unscathed.